Gear:

Main 5 Piece:
Ebony Armory
Plague Doctor / Green Pact
Akaviri Dragonguard
Torugs Pact
Histbark

Off 5 Piece
Alkosh
Torugs
Powerfull Assault

Honorable Mentions (more beginner friendly or niché)
Beekeeper
Brass Fortress
Armor of the Seducer (rly only for beginners with rly bad sustain)
Tava´ s Favor (RIP since since Shuffle nerf, only viable with high dodgechances)
Bahrahas Curse
Lunar Bastion

Food:
Jewels of Misrule
or plain old Tri-Stat

Potions:
Tripots (Health, Magika, Stamina)
Vitality Potions for Cloudrest (Health, Healthregen, Major Vitality)

General stats:
Health: 33-40k depends on main set (35k is enough for nearly everything)
Magika 16k, enough for me can be higher if needed
Stamina 23k, more Stam = stronger vigor heals, can be less if needed
1,1k Magregen

Other stuff:
Vampire: YES !!!
WW: No
Psijiic worth it ? : Yes if using meditation or ulti on frontbar for minor protection
Enchants: Look what suits u best: i have 3 tristat and 4 health with stam extra on shield, weapons should be either double crusher or one crusher one weakening

How to git gud ?
Practice, nothing else. Dont let anyone tell u u are bad, just keep practicing and be discouraged because u die a few times